用户名: 密码: 验证码:    注册 | 忘记密码?
首页|听力资源|每日听力|网络电台|在线词典|听力论坛|下载频道|部落家园|在线背单词|双语阅读|在线听写|普特网校
您的位置:主页 > 英语视听(A&V) > 在线影院 >

[英伦广角]你和成功人士的距离,就是说:“不”!

2017-07-07    来源:FT中文网    【      美国外教 在线口语培训

英语视听

July 7, 2017


Why the most successful people just say no

凯拉韦:说是和说不的主要区别在于一个容易说出来,另一个难以启齿。任何一个老傻瓜都可以说是,而说不需要性格、承诺和勇气。

Today I did not get up at 6:30am to flog over to a breakfast meeting in Knightsbridge. Tomorrow I am not going to have a sandwich lunch to discuss a project I am only vaguely involved in.

On Thursday I am not going to a summer networking party. Neither am I writing an article for a website that neglects to pay contributors, nor am I giving an interview to an Australian radio station. I might have been doing all of these things, but I have said no to them.

 

PUTCLUB

As well as making me considerably happier, this naysaying makes me bang on trend. No is the new yes. It is the most fashionable answer for successful people.

Ten years ago it was the other way around. There was a uniformly positive selection of books on Amazon that were all rabidly pro-yes. Now they have been pushed aside by The Life-changing Power of No!

and How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

. There is even a How to Say No

colouring book for adults, as well as books of more niche interest, like Say No to Arthritis.

Yet last week “no” reached cult status. In a blog post for the Harvard Business Review, a management coach suggested that it is not enough simply to say no, we must start celebrating whenever we do so.

No is thus granted the same giddy status as failure, which everyone has been doggedly celebrating for a decade at least. The Museum of Failure was opened last week in Sweden; give it a year or two and the Museum of No is bound to follow.

Yet to celebrate no is not so silly. Since reading the blog, I have taken to starting each day lying in bed giving silent thanks for the things I have successfully refused to do. I do not have to write that article today (hooray), nor have coffee with that person (phew), nor go to that lunch.

With each thing I mentally tick off, the better the day seems. I skip out of bed eager to do the things that slipped through my net of negativity.

Podcast: Lucy Kellaway on work skills for the 21st century

Join Lucy and experts for a panel discussion in front of a studio audience

You could say this is all very selfish. Every time we say no we disappoint the person asking. And every job we turn down creates something for some other poor sucker to have to do instead.

Yet there is another way of looking at it — fans of no are rebranding it as the altruistic choice.

On the Entrepreneur website is a blog post that argues saying no is good, as it creates space for junior people to step up. And declining things at work allows you to spend more time at home tending to your family.

I can think of something even better about it. If enough people were to say no to pointless things often enough it would lead to a more efficient allocation of resources. If we all refused boring meetings and events, eventually the penny would drop and people would stop arranging them.

Despite being a great fan of no at work, even I admit that sometimes it is the wrong answer. The great challenge is therefore to spot when to stop saying no and start saying yes.

Why the most successful people just say no

The main difference between yes and no is that one is easy and the other hard, says Lucy Kellaway

The HBR recommends ranking all opportunities from one to 10, but my system is simpler. I say yes to things I a) have to do; b) want to do or c) ought to do. Though sometimes I ignore c) if I can talk myself out of whatever it is without feeling a total heel.

The trouble with this system is that often it is not clear whether you really have to do something — or even if you want to do it. But in that case there is a rule: if in doubt, say no. At the margin, less work is always better than more.

The main difference between yes and no is that one is easy and the other hard.

Yes can be said by any old fool, while no requires character, commitment and courage. Saying no gets easier as you get older: I have gone from being rubbish at it to being a master, and am still improving.

I have learnt the importance of saying no quickly. If you procrastinate you are already on the back foot and may be tricked into saying yes by mistake.

I have also learnt never to give reasons, as they can be challenged, resulting in capitulation. In writing this I have learnt a third thing: never say you cannot do something because you are too busy.

No one will be impressed: being too busy simply proves you are not good enough at saying no.

 

英语听力能力,是每个英语学习者的必备能力。英语训练的过程其实是一个基于记忆的特殊技能训练的过程。那么如何让听力水平有质的飞跃?小编为大家推荐的是普特英语听力网出版过的被数万人追捧的两本书《听力元素》《听力策略》

听力教材
听力元素听力策略
本书听力训练方法主要是由听写对照译背三部分组成。其原理是用听写强化耳音和头脑反应之间的联系,通过听写提高辨音能力,通过译背来强化自己的语言能力。

《听力元素》侧重攻破各种听力考试《听力策略》侧重交际和现实听力

 

听力教材购买二维码
识别二维码即可购买 76元两本书包邮

购买链接:http://detail.youzan.com/show/goods?alias=3esw03151f651&v2/goods/3esw03151f651



 



顶一下
(0)
0%
踩一下
(1)
100%
手机上普特 m.putclub.com 手机上普特
[责任编辑:wang]
------分隔线----------------------------
相关文章列表
发表评论 查看所有评论
请自觉遵守互联网政策法规,严禁发布色情、暴力、反动的言论。
评价:
表情:
用户名: 密码: 验证码:
  • 推荐文章
  • 资料下载
  • 讲座录音
普特英语手机网站
用手机浏览器输入m.putclub.com进入普特手机网站学习
查看更多手机学习APP>>