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如果丈夫出轨,该怎么办 What to Do If Your Husband Cheated

2016-12-27    来源:网络    【      美国外教 在线口语培训

You saw the signs. You've assessed the damage. Maybe you even know why your husband strayed. Now, you're dealing with the fact that, yeah, he committed the ultimate act of infidelity, and maybe he even owned up to it. While you might be tempted to throw your wedding band out the window, don't - there could be a happy ending to your tragedy.
你发现苗头了。你也估算过了伤害程度。甚至可能知道为什么你的丈夫会背叛你。现在的事实是,是的,他的确对你不忠了,甚至他还承认了。你可能一气之下想要扔掉婚戒,但千万别——因为对于这样的悲剧可能会有一个美满结局。

Don't freak out
别慌


You shouldn't act out, Laurie Watson, sex and relationship therapist and host of the podcast Foreplay, says, meaning: You shouldn't tell your kids or everyone you know that your spouse cheated. Instead, she says, you need to take some time to figure out what everything means - because it doesn't necessarily mean divorce.
你不应该表现出来,劳里•沃森说道,她是性情感专家也是Foreplay播客的主播。这就是说:你不该把知道丈夫出轨这件事告诉你的孩子或任何人。她说,相反,你需要花点时间搞清楚这意味着什么——因为这不一定意味着你们要离婚。

"A lot of people have affairs and their marriage can be strengthened after," she says. (Does that mean go have an affair to strengthen your marriage? No. No, it does not. But it does mean that any rash decisions made after you learn your spouse is cheating are unlikely to help rebuild your relationship.)
“很多人都会有外遇,而他们的婚姻会在外遇阶段结束后更加稳固,”她说道。(这难道是说要去外遇来巩固婚姻关系吗?并不是。但这却表示在你得知另一半出轨之后所做的任何草率决定都不大可能重建你们之间的关系。)

Grapple with your emotions - and decide if you want to make the marriage work
与自己的情感作斗争——然后再决定是否还想继续婚姻


"If you find your husband cheating, you'll feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. Ask yourself if you're invested in your relationship and want to make it work," says therapist Dr. Jane Greer. "Sometimes people cannot even consider going forward in the relationship, but if you're willing to work at it, then make sure your partner is apologizing and - more importantly - taking responsibility for what they did.
“如果你发现丈夫出轨了,你应该会很恼火、伤心、感觉被背叛了。问问自己对这段感情有没有付出,是否想要继续这段情感,”治疗师简•格里尔博士说道。“有时候,人们甚至都不会考虑继续经营这段感情,但是如果你想继续的话,那就要确保你的另一半会对出轨这件事道歉——更重要的是——要为自己做的事情负责。”

Don't beg your husband to stay
千万别乞求自己的丈夫留下来


It's important to not plead and beg, Watson says. However, you should stress to him that you want your marriage to stay intact, she says. She suggests telling your spouse something like, "I want you, I want the marriage." That's different from begging. It's important from to know that you want to make it work. And then...it's time to work on stuff.
沃森说做到不苦苦哀求是很重要的。然而,你需要跟他强调你仍然想保持婚姻关系不变,她说道。她建议对丈夫说一些类似“我想要你,我想要保持这段婚姻”之类的话。这与哀求是不一样的。知道自己想要什么,然后再去争取自己想要的结果才是重要的,然后……就需要时间来磨合这一切了。

See a couple's therapist
去看夫妻治疗师


"I really believe in seeing a couple's therapist," says Dr. Megan Fleming, a sex and relationships therapist. "The reality is there's so much emotion that gets pulled up." That emotion may be tough to deal with alone.
“我特别相信看夫妻治疗师,”梅根•弗莱明医生说道,她是性情感治疗师。“现实是,这会牵扯到太多的情感。”一个人也许很难消化这些情感。

1.freak out 使处于极度兴奋中;崩溃


Some browsers, like IE, will “freak out” if you use these new tags, but don’t worry.
如果你使用这些新标签,有些类似 IE 的浏览器会“出乱子”,不过别担心。

2.figure out 解决;算出;想出;理解;断定

I need to figure out how to get around with this kind of limited range.
我必须要在这有限的车程里想出可以四处游玩的好方法。

3.deal with处理;涉及;做生意

I'll deal with the children later.
孩子们的事由我以后去处理。

4.go forward发生,前进

If no one responds to your call, go forward alone.
如果没有人回应你的召集,那就独立一个前进吧!



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