这12句话女人整天挂在嘴边,而男人却疑惑不解...

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2016-9-27 11:04

语言这个东西很有意思,无论你说的是英语/西班牙语/法语还是别的什么语言,我敢说,交流中肯定会有些值得需要引起注意的地方。然而,即便男人和女人使用的是同一种语言,一方所表达的内容也肯定与另一方所领会的意思有所偏差。
大多数情感咨询会教人们去理解他们的伴侣究竟在表达什么意思。虽然我们不是什么情感专家,我们也想要把这些女人总是挂在嘴边,男人却无法理解12句话分享给大家。如果你认为你和你的另一半也有同样的问题,那就来和小编一起了解一下吧!
1.“Which of my friends is most attractive?“
“我的哪个朋友好看?“
Much like “Do you think she’s pretty“ any questions relating to the attractiveness of her friends is a blatant trap. Your girlfriend might want a reason to argue or she might be genuinely curious about your response. In either case, your best answer is a straightforward stair and a firm pleading of the fifth in this case.
这个问题类似于“你觉得她美吗?“,这类与她朋友们的外貌相关的问题,绝对是个陷阱。你的女友可能只想要个答案,或者对你的反应真的很好奇。这种情况下,最好的答案就是都好看啊!物以类聚,人以群分!像宝贝你这么漂亮又有气质,小伙伴们当然也不会太差啊!
2.“That guy whistled at me!“
那个家伙在朝我吹口哨!
There is a fine line between being proud of your girl for getting a compliment and understanding her anger for being objectified. Hint: if someone catcalls your girlfriend then you need to match your girls'anger note for note. Catcalling may seem awesome in reverse, having woman exclaim how handsome you are, but it is not the case for women around the world. Catcalling is typically unwelcome and always disgusting. We aren’t implying that you need to go slug some dude, but at least respect your girl enough to sympathize with her anger.
你的女友得到他人的欣赏,你是该骄傲自豪?还是该愤怒生气?千万要把握好尺度。小编提示:如果有人对你的女友发出嘘声,你就要对她的生气表示高度关心。如果有个女生惊呼你真帅,但事实上你并非是个人人公认的大帅哥,这样的嘘声反而会让人讨厌。一般来讲,嘘声是不受欢迎,让人反感的。你并不需要去暴打那些花花公子们,但至少要足够尊重你的女朋友,理解她的心情。
3.“I'm almost ready to go!“
我快好了
This is girl-phrase for “I've just began to turn myself into a representable human being. Please give me another hour.“ If you hear these dreaded words then you had better place your well groomed butt on the sofa, pull out a magazine, and get ready to change your plans for the night — you aren't going to make that movie, your dinner reservations won’t be held, and now you are going to be the bad guy. It's not all bad, however, because now you have room for an ‘adventure’ — carefully re-orchestrating your minutely planned evening of romance.
女生在表达“再给我一个小时,我就能把自己打扮的美美的“的意思时,通常都会说“我快好了“。如果你很不幸的听到这句话,即便你已经穿戴整齐,也最好坐在沙发上翻阅杂志,并考虑着改变今晚的约会行程——你们可能不会去看电影,晚餐预订可能要取消,似乎你要变成一个不称职的男朋友了。然而这也并非什么坏事,因为你终于有机会去“冒险“了——重新去精心策划浪漫约会的每一分钟吧!
4.“Thanks a lot.“
多谢!
When your girlfriend responds to something you did with “Thanks a lot“ you should pretty much hang up your cleats because the game is over. “Thanks“ or “Thank you“ is an appropriate answer to a small favor performed, but the added qualifier of “a lot“ makes this one snarky response that should send chills up your spine — an argument is brewing.
当你的女友对你用“多谢“,你就该提高警惕了,因为这意味着她可能要和你说“拜拜“了。对于一个小忙,“谢谢“或“谢谢你“就很恰当,但若加一个限定词“多“,则听起来意味深长,让你感觉脊背发凉——一场争吵正在暗中发酵。
Any time that we end up dipping our language into hyperbole, male or female, will unveil layers of our own prior emotion. In couples counseling you'll see the counselor focus on all of the qualifiers we add to our words. Eventually, with enough practice, you'll begin to understand all the different forms of “Thanks a lot“ that crop up in your day to day conversations.
任何时候,我们都会用夸张的词汇来表达自己的情感,无论男女都是这样。在夫妻情感咨询中,咨询师所关注的往往是我们加在话语中限定词。见识的多了,你就会明白日常对话中表示“多谢“的其它形式了。
5.“Do you need to do that now?“
你非得现在做这事儿吗?
If you are doing anything in the world of adult dating that precipitates this response then you've already sort of messed up. This is particularly true when it comes to the little passions you might have that your girlfriend doesn't like video games, for example. If you are sitting on the couch with your girlfriend and you turn on the Xbox and she asks, “Do you need to do that now?“ then your response should be simple: “No, you're right, I don't“.
如果你在约会,而你的女票给你抛出了这个问题,你马上就凌乱了。这句话出现的情况往往是,你有兴致打游戏,而你的女票却不感冒。比方说你俩正坐在沙发上,你打开游戏后女票这样问你:“你现在就要打游戏吗?“你的回答应该是这样一句简单的话:“不,我现在不玩儿“。
Not only is she giving a clear signal that she wants your attention but she is also giving you the ability to choose to give it to her, which will ultimately earn you some savory brownie points to be cashed in later. Always remember to give your girl the attention that she deserves because there will always be someone else willing to do it.
因为这个问题不仅表明她期待得到你的关注,同时她也给了你是否要选择陪她的权利,这样一来会让你更具吸引力。永远记住,要关注你的女朋友,世界上那个女孩儿不希望自己的男朋友时时刻刻都关心她呢?!假如你不愿意这样做的话,自然会有别人愿意取而代之。
6.“I'll eat anywhere.“
随便,去哪儿吃都可以!
It's almost become a meme at this point, but trying to decide where to eat dinner is a conversation trap that can turn even the most loving of couples into two cats in a junkyard. When you ask your wife where she wants to eat and she says “anywhere“ then you need to make some rapid fire decisions.
决定去哪里吃饭似乎是一个与饮食文化有关的问题,但它本事又是一个陷阱问题,即便是最恩爱的夫妻也会因为这件事儿变成游荡在垃圾场的两只猫一般不知何去何从。你若是问你的妻子她想去哪里吃饭,而她告诉你“随便,去哪儿都行“,那你就要马上做出决定。
Do you want to press the issue and force her to make a decision? Probably not. Instead of pressing her for an answer you should instead make a quick decision using your backlog of information. If you guys had sushi just two days ago, opt for something that she likes while still being relatively ‘new’ to your recent dining options.
想让她作决定,想都别想。反而是你要马上激活你的脑细胞作出快速决策了。如果你的妻子两天前才吃过寿司,那就选择最近你们没吃过,而她又喜欢的美食吧!
7.“That guy is looking at me.“
那家伙在看我
You know that you have a complete smoke show of a girlfriend or wife and that obviously rises to the top of your thoughts when you go out with her. Obviously guys are going to notice how beautiful she is.Sometimes your girl will feel flattered and other times it will bother you. In any event, if she mentions that a guy is flirting with her when you are around then you need to take notice.
你知道吗?如果你有个漂亮的女友或妻子,和她外出时,她自然会是你关注的焦点,也会成为别人关注的焦点。虽然有时这会让她沾沾自喜,可也会让你吃醋不爽。无论如何,如果你在她身边,她还说有人在跟她调情,你就要引起注意了。
While the guy may or may not be actually flirting with her, your response is clear: You need to give more attention to your woman. She mentions the other guy's looks solely to make you more attentive. Don't be a meat head and start a fight. Be a good guy and give her more love.
不管这家伙是不是真正和她调情,你的反应都该十分明确:你需要给你的女朋友更多关注。她提到别人只是为了让你更注意她。别像个笨蛋似的和她吵起来,要做一个体贴的男朋友,给她更多的爱。
8.“I'm not mad.“
我没有生你的气
There are white lies that keep most relationships afloat and for the most part they are best off ignored. Don't press the issue on some of these white lies but always be aware of what they mean. If you notice your girlfriend acting a little short, or a little irritated, and she tells you that she “isn't mad“ then you need to believe her, but also know what she really means.
有些善意的谎言能够继续维持关系,并且大多数情况下你最好忽视它们。切不要过于深究这些谎言,但也要意识到谎言背后的实质。如果你意识到你的女友有点生气或是恼怒,却又告诉你她“没有生气“,那么你需要相信她,也要知道她真正想表达什么。
She's probably mad. She might be mad at you or she might be mad about something that you have no control over. Either way, don't push for her to spill the beans. Merely continue being the good guy that you probably are. If it continues to bother her then she will eventually open up and let you know.
她可能是生气了,也许是对你,也许是别的什么你没法控制的事情。不管怎样,别逼她说漏嘴。继续装糊涂,做个老好人吧。如果她依然感到生气,她会说出来让你知道的。
9.“I don't want to talk about it.“
“我不想聊这件事了“。
We have mentioned white lies that are good to be ignored, now let's talk about white lies that you don't leave alone. When your girlfriend starts an argument with you and then abruptly bookends it with “I don't want to talk about it“ then you know she is fibbing. Couples aren't supposed to walk away from arguments to let them ferment. Instead, couples need to be proactive in their approach to problem solving. If she says that she doesn't want to talk about something then give her some space before exploring the problem further.
我们之前已经提到过,善意的谎言易被忽略。现在我们就来谈谈那些你不该忽视的善意的谎言。若你的女友和你聊天时突然蹦出一句:“我不想聊这件事了“,你要知道她在说反话。夫妻双方不应该避开争论去让问题继续发酵升温,而应该积极的解决问题。如果她说了这句话,那就给她留一点空间,之后再进一步解决问题。
10.“Do I look fat in this?“
我穿这件看起来胖吗?
To a degree we are all aware of just how our body looks. This gives us body insecurities that tend to magnify when we grow older or when we start to break down just a little bit. An important part of your relationship will revolve around always making sure that your girlfriend looks and feels beautiful. So when she asks that trap question, “Do I look fat in this?“, she is really just asking you to tell her that she's beautiful to you in any outfit. Still, do be honest in regards to outfits. Instead of talking about her body when answering this question, instead focus on things like patterns and colors.
在某种程度上,每个人都会在意自己的外表。这会带给我们不安全感,并会随着我们年龄的增长而被放大。而男女关系中重要的一点就是,你要始终相信你的女朋友美丽动人。所以,当她问了这个陷阱问题后,她就是想要你告诉她,对你来讲,她穿什么都好看。当然,也要对她穿的衣服保持诚实。回答此类问题时,要避开谈论她的身体,而要將话题转向衣服的图案颜色等。
11.“Do you think she's pretty?“
你觉得我美吗?
We've talked a lot about how certain questions or phrases can be coded requests for affirmation or love. This question, “Do you think she's pretty“, is nothing more than a minefield that needs to be avoided. Perhaps your girl is feeling less than her best in terms of appearance or maybe she thinks that your eyes have been wandering a little bit lately. Either way, your answer should be a resounding “No way, not even half as pretty as you“.
对于此类问题我们之前已经谈论的很多了,应將其视为她在考验你是否喜欢她或者爱她。“你觉得我美吗?“绝对是个要避免的雷区。可能你的女友觉得她离自己理想的美丽还差了一点,或是她觉得你的眼神不在她的身上。无论如何,你都应给予她一个肯定的答复,“怎么可能?都不及你的一半好看“
12.“Do whatever you want.“
随便
This phrase is particularly indicative of the kind of double speak that men just aren't equipped to understand. On the surface the phrase ‘Do whatever you want sounds like your woman is giving you permission to go ahead with whatever plans you had made. This is not the case. In fact, ‘Do whatever you want’ is closer to a dare than it is to any other sort of phrase.
这句话表达的尤其模楞两可,可男人们往往不能理解。表面上看起来像是你的女人將选择权交给了你,你可以随心所欲地继续你的计划。可事实上,这句话要比其他任何一句话都更具杀伤力。
If your girlfriend or wife utters this phrase then you need to pause in your tracks, perk your ears up, and try to read between the lines. Hint: she doesn't want you to go forward with your plans.
如果你的女票或者老婆对你说了这句话,那你可就要停下原先的计划,竖起耳朵,细细品味。小编提醒你:她可能并不想你继续你的计划了。
(英文材料来自于 DailyForest 翻译:实习生 郝苑秀
编辑整理:Michelle )