六种类型的爱,哪种说的是你?(上)

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2017-2-15 15:33

古希腊人给出了几种不同的爱的描述。跟随着他们的脚步,社会学家、活动家John Alan提出了6中广义的爱的类型。普特君为你盘点这六种类型的特点,哪种更像你呢?

It is good to keep in mind that although these love styles can be thought of as “types“, we are not necessarily locked into only one. We might have a predominant love style, but we will also have some elements of the other styles.
一定要牢记于心的是尽管这些爱的类型能被当作“类型“,我们没必要对号入座。我们也许有明显的爱的风格,但是我们也可能有其他的类型。

Similarly, our love style might change over time based on our experiences and interactions with our partners.
类似地,基于我们的经历以及与另一半的互动我们的爱的风格随着时间而变化着。


1.Eros
1.肉体上的爱


This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is intense and immediate (“head over heels“), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.
这种风格是典型的浪漫的,童话故事般的风格。肉体上的美丽在这种风格的爱中起着重要的作用。这种吸引是热烈而及时的(神魂颠倒啊),而且它能够促进精神上的和肉体上的感情的深化。

Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those same feelings again with someone new.
因为这些人喜欢悲哀的感觉,他们倾向于多次更换伴侣的一夫一妻制,只要还能保持新鲜感就维持这段感情,然后换个人来感受。

2.Storge
2.亲情


Storgic types tend to be stable and committed in their relationships. They value companionship, psychological closeness and trust. For these individuals, love relationships can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is enduring, and these individuals are in it for the long haul.
在伴侣的关系中,亲情更为稳定,更为忠诚。他们看重陪伴,心灵上的亲近以及信任。对这些人来说,爱的关系有时能够超越友谊,因而这一对恋人渐生情愫。这种风格是持久的,而且是一个漫长的过程。

3.Ludus
3.游戏之爱


People with a ludic style view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this can be a multiplayer game! Ludic individuals are comfortable with deception and manipulation in their relationships. They tend to be low on commitment and are often emotionally distant.
有着游戏之爱的人们将爱情看作是一场游戏,他们为了获胜而参与。通常这场游戏里有多个参与者。这些人们会因为在感情中进行欺骗,取得统治地位而感到舒服。他们在妥协方面欠缺,而且不易与人亲近。

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