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你不止上了假大学 还可能交了这7种假朋友

2017-07-13    来源:普特英语听力    【      美国外教 在线口语培训

 鲍勃•迪伦曾经写过一首非常有意思的民谣歌曲《Positively 4th Street》,其中的歌词耐人寻味:

You got a lotta nerve
你真有胆子
To say you are my friend
敢说你是我的朋友
When I was down
我倒霉的时候
You just stood there grinning
你就站那儿咧着嘴乐
...
歌名中第四街指的是纽约格林尼治村的西4街,是美国民歌复兴运动的摇篮,他曾住在这里,成名后有些同行嫉妒他,攻击他,他很生气,后来搬走了。于是他就写了这样一首歌曲来讽刺那些曾经把他当朋友,如今却对他恶言相向的人。
 
小心身边的假朋友

鲍勃•迪伦通过这首民谣歌曲揭穿了身边那些虚假朋友的伪善面目。生活中每个人都有可能遇到这样的假朋友,一开始他们无比真诚的和你成为朋友。当我们开始相信他们,花时间和他们在一起,但过了一段时间,不知道出于什么原因,这些假朋友的真实面目就暴露出来。他们可能开始落井下石,在你需要帮助时冷眼相对,或者只把你当做自己可以利用的工具。
 
身边这些假朋友通常很难被发现,他们来到你身边的真实目的和意图也难以辨别。但是这些假朋友通常就是你身边的这7类人:
1.The Complimenter  恭维者
 
It’s part of human nature to like being complimented, and we in turn often like those who are complimenting us. Beware the complimenter , as they know this. The complimenter throws you with praise and appreciation to get close to you fast. You need to question why they want to get close to you so quickly. What are their goals, it could mean they have confidence issues and are genuinely a great and kind person, but it could mean they want something very particular from you and not your friendship (be wary if the complimenter is of the opposite sex).
喜欢恭维和被赞美是人性的一部分,反过来说我们更喜欢和那些总是说我们好话的人相处。其实真的要小心别人的恭维,因为许多假朋友正是利用了人们爱听好话这一点。恭维者们能够通过一大堆赞美和表扬获得你的信任,迅速和你成为朋友。这时你需要自问这些人为何如此迅速的接近你,他们有什么目的。有些人可能天性热情善良,擅于和别人迅速成为朋友。但有些人迅速靠近你并不是为了得到你的友谊,而是想利用你来帮助他们获取某些利益。(如果恭维你的人是异性的话,更加要小心)。
 
Luckily the complimenter is easy to spot, as their over friendliness can easily seem fake (because it is).
幸运的是,这些恭维很容易被发现,因为他们的友谊有时看起来真的好假。
 
小心身边的假朋友

2.The Manipulator 操纵者
 
The manipulator can be one of the most dangerous forms of fake friends as they are often the most difficult to spot. The manipulator is only effective when they have earned your appreciation and your trust, it is here when their deviousness comes into play. A good friend, a real friend always takes your thoughts and feelings into account, the manipulator has no reason to take these into account as to them you are only a chess piece to move in order to get what they want. Don’t expect them to stick around once they have gotten what they want. Avoid at all costs.
操纵者可能是最危险的假朋友之一,因为他们通常是最难被发现的。只有当他们赢得了你的欣赏和信任,这些操纵者的计划一步步顺利展开,最终他们的阴谋诡计才能得逞。一个真正的好朋友总是会想方设法为你考虑,操纵者们从来不会这样做,因为在他们心中你不过是一个为了满足他们自身利益和目的而随时移动的棋子。所以不要指望这些人在得到他们想要的东西后还会一心一意跟你做朋友,因为这些人只会在达成目的后不计一切代价的抛弃你。
 
小心身边的假朋友

3.The Social Climber 势利眼
 
The social climber sees friends as others see expensive clothes or items, something that makes them look good. In their minds they are constantly judging all they associate with, and are ready to drop you or any friend if they feel they are no longer needed as they climb the social ladder. Like the manipulator, they only associate with you if it suits them, and have little regard for your feelings or wants.
势力眼的人交朋友就像挑奢侈品一样,他们总是选择那些可以给自己增光添彩的朋友。势利的人会不断地去评判他们交往的所有人,如果他们觉得自己在攀登社会阶梯的过程中你无法给其带来帮助,他们就会把你或任何一个朋友狠狠抛下。和操纵者们一样,势利眼的人只在乎你能否给他们向上爬带来帮助,根本不会像一个真朋友一样去关心你的感受。
 
小心身边的假朋友

4.The Copy Machine 复印机
 
The copy machine is not so much a friend, but a fan. Where the complimenter, the manipulator, and the social climber are shrewd and cunning. The copy machine is willing to drop or modify any aspect of their personality or character to mimic yours. Their end goal for their mimicry is uncertain, but possibly to them there is an aspect to your personality that they want. With good friends, there is the possibility to challenge each other, to grow and find out more about each other. With the copy machine, you are only dealing with a warped mirror image.
复印机一样的朋友与其说是朋友,不如说是你的铁杆粉丝。在他们眼中,恭维和操纵者以及势利眼都是精明而狡猾的。相反复印机一样的朋友愿意放弃他们自己的个性来迁就和模仿你。他们模仿的最终目的是不确定的,但可能对他们来说,在你的身上看到了他们自己一直期待的东西。有一位真正的好朋友,就有可能互相挑战,成长,相互了解更多。但是有一位复印机一样的朋友,你就只能和一个扭曲的自己的镜像相处。
 
小心身边的假朋友

5.The Pretender 骗子
 
The pretender is much like the friend Bob Dylan sang about in Positively Fourth Street. They are someone who only acts like your friend when it suits them. They can be friendly, they can even be fun to hang with. But there is no loyalty to them and in the same way they are pretending to be your friend, they are also perfectly happy to pretend that they are not your friend if they think that will negatively affect them.
就像鲍勃·迪伦在《Positively Fourth Street》中唱的那样。有些人总是像个虚假的骗子一样,假惺惺的伪装成你的好朋友。你们曾经玩儿的很开心,一起度过很多难忘的日子。但是他们的字典里面从来就没有忠诚这个词。他们可以假惺惺的和你做朋友,一旦有一天他们认为你成为威胁,就可以立刻翻脸假装跟你从来都不是朋友。
 
Most of the time the pretender shows themselves in debts that will never be paid back, borrowed items that aren’t returned. Like many of the fake friends on this list they don’t really think much of your thoughts and feelings as they are not important to them.
多数情况下,这类朋友永远有还不完的债,从你这里借的东西永远没有还回来的时候。就像上面说到的许多假朋友一样,他们从来不会关心和在乎朋友的感受,因为其实他们连自己都不在乎和重视。
 
True friends are there with you just as much in bad and difficult times as in good times. The pretender never shows when things get tough.
真正的好朋友一定是愿意与你同享福共患难。而那些假朋友当你遇上麻烦时,他们立马就会消失的无影无踪。
 
小心身边的假朋友

6.The Cheater 背叛者
 
Unlike every other entry on this list, the cheater may well once have been a true friend. You might have been important to them, and they may have been important to you. You may even think they are still your friend, when secretly all that has changed. The cheater is a person who stays and acts like your friend when they are secretly doing something that utterly betrays you and your trust. Most commonly this is having a secret romantic or sexual relationship with your partner. Sadly the cheater is only knowable once they have already broken your trust, and until then appears to be a true friend.
与其他上榜的人不同,背叛可能曾经是真正的朋友。你可能对他们很重要,他们可能对你也很重要。你甚至可能以为他们仍然是你的朋友,但其实一切都悄悄的改变了。背叛者是这样的一群人,当他们暗中做一些完全背叛你信任的事情时,他们还会选择假装什么都没有发生。最常见的情况就是,他们悄悄地夺走了你的男朋友。不幸的是,背叛者只有破坏了你的信任之后才会知道,他们背叛掉的是曾经如此真诚的一段友情。
 
小心身边的假朋友

7.The Rival 竞争对手
 
The rival is the least subtle of all fake friends. Unfortunately they are quite common. Have you ever had a friend that, whenever you mention something you or a friend has done, they immediately say something that makes them the focus of attention? Then this a rival.
竞争对手型的朋友是所有假朋友中最不狡猾的。不幸的是,这种朋友很常见。你有过这样的朋友吗? 每当你提到你或朋友的哪些成就,他就开始转移话题吸引注意力,这样的人就是你的竞争对手。
 
Every achievement you make is to them a challenge, not something to be duly celebrated. If you get a new TV, they get a bigger one, if you take up a new hobby, then they take it up too with the exclusive intention of becoming better at it than you. What’s worse, is that if they can’t beat you, then they move to spoil your enjoyment, eventually they cease being your friend then become an enemy. They never were your friends to begin with.
你的每一个成就都会成为对他们的挑战,而不是值得庆祝的事情。如果你买了一台新电视,他们就会想买一个更大的电视,如果你有了新爱好,他们也会跟着去做,而且试图做的比你更好。更糟糕的是,如果他们无法打败你,那么他们就会开始去搞破坏,最终他们会成为你的敌人。因为在一开始他们就没有把你当成朋友,而是当成了处处想和你较劲的对手。
 

有人说:假朋友就是永远喂不饱的狗,假烟假酒假感情,别谈感情直接说价钱!生活中,小伙伴们可千万要擦亮眼睛,小心这些假朋友哦!
本文转载自普特考试小助手                  


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