他其实没那么喜欢你 Part 9
He’s Just Not That Into You
英语原版小说《他其实没那么喜欢你》（原名:He’s Just Not That Into You),主要讲述几对友人看似错综复杂其实很普遍的爱情故事，故事摒弃了以往美剧排列组合的方式，而是分成不同角度，去看每一段独立的爱情，最终让人去回望自己身边或者亲身经历的感情。
The "Maybe He Wants to Take It Slow" Excuse
There's this guy who calls me all the time. He's recently divorced, and in AA.
We got back in touch recently, had lots of phone calls, and then hung out twice in one week and it was real cool.
No flirting or making out or anything, but fun.
Since then, he calls me all the time but doesn't ever suggest we see each other in person again.
It's like he got scared or something.
I would understand if because of the divorce/alcoholic/starting-a-whole- new-life stuff he wanted to take things slow.
But he still calls me all the time to have long heart- to-heart talks.
What the hell should I do with this guy?
Dear Pillow Talk,
Sadly, not wanting to see you in person is massive as far as dating obstacles go.
And as far as the recently divorced/newly sober/starting-a- new-life parts, blah blah blah, I'm getting sleepy, it's hot, I'm going down for a nap.
When I wake up from that nap I'll probably thrill to the news that your friend is taking control of his life.
You, however, will still not be going on a date, because despite all of your excuses for him, he's still not asking you out.
Now, if you're a person who enjoys a slightly satisfying phone relationship, talk on!
But at this point it seems like he's just not that into you.
Be his friend if you're at all interested on that level, but move your romantic inclinations onto a more suitable future husband.
Hugs from here, Greg
If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately.
He won't keep you guessing, because he'll want to make sure you don't get frustrated and go away.