他其实没那么喜欢你 Part 13
He’s Just Not That Into You
英语原版小说《他其实没那么喜欢你》（原名:He’s Just Not That Into You),主要讲述几对友人看似错综复杂其实很普遍的爱情故事，故事摒弃了以往美剧排列组合的方式，而是分成不同角度，去看每一段独立的爱情，最终让人去回望自己身边或者亲身经历的感情。
But guess what: My way? Has sucked. Hasn't worked at all.
I've never had a successful relationship with a guy that I've pursued.
I'm sure there are many stories out there to the contrary.
But for me, those guys end up getting back together with their ex-girlfriend, needing to take some time for themselves, or going out of town for business.
Usually it doesn't even get that far. They usually just don't ever return my phone call.
And let me tell you, that didn't make me feel very in control of anything.
Since I've been implementing Greg's handy-dandy “he's just not that into you” philosophy, I've been feeling surprisingly more powerful.
Because if the men are asking you out, if the men have to get your attention, then you, in fact,are the one in control.
There's no scheming and plotting.
And there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as Ican, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out.
And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We're fantastic.
This is What It Should Look Like, by Greg
One night I was drinking in a bar and flirting with the bartender. I asked for her number.
She said, “I don't give out my phone number because guys rarely call me when they say they're going to.
My name is Lindsey Adams, and if you want to call me, find my phone number.”
Which I did—the very next day.
Do you know how many Lindsey Adams there are in the phone book of a major city?
Let's just say I talked to about eight or nine before I found mine.
An actor we work with met a girl while he was making a public appearance on an aircraft carrier.
He lost track of her in about ten minutes.
And yet, because he was so smitten, he somehow managed to track her down in the army, and they are now married.