他其实没那么喜欢你 Part 24
He’s Just Not That Into You
英语原版小说《他其实没那么喜欢你》（原名:He’s Just Not That Into You),主要讲述几对友人看似错综复杂其实很普遍的爱情故事，故事摒弃了以往美剧排列组合的方式，而是分成不同角度，去看每一段独立的爱情，最终让人去回望自己身边或者亲身经历的感情。
He's Just Not That Into You If He's Not Dating You
"Hanging Out" is Not Dating
Oh, there seem to be so many variations to dating, particularly in the early stages of a relationship.
So many gray, murky areas of vagueness, mystery, and no questions asked.
Dudes love this time because that's when they get to pretend they're not really dating you.
Then they also get to pretend they're not really responsible for your feelings.
When you ask someone out on a real bona fide date, you're making it official: I'd like to see you alone and find out if we have a romantic future together (or at least pretend to listen to you while I ponder whether you're wearing a thong) .
In case you need more clues: There's usually a public excursion, a meal, and some hand-holding involved.
The "He Just Got Out of a Relationship" Excuse
I'm really, really in love. I want to say that first.
I've been sleeping with a really, really good friend of mine who recently got out of a terrible marriage.
Because he is in the process of going through a very traumatic breakup, he's really clear that he can't have any kind of expectations or demands put on him in any way.
Basically, he wants to come and go as he pleases.
We've been seeing each other and sleeping together for six months now.
It's very painful not to be able to have any say about when or how often I get to see him.
Yet it's also very painful to think about not being with him.
I don't like being in this powerless a position, but I feel like if I hold out, eventually he'll be mine.
But it's very difficult for me in the meantime. What should I do?