他其实没那么喜欢你 Part 29
He’s Just Not That Into You
英语原版小说《他其实没那么喜欢你》（原名:He’s Just Not That Into You),主要讲述几对友人看似错综复杂其实很普遍的爱情故事，故事摒弃了以往美剧排列组合的方式，而是分成不同角度，去看每一段独立的爱情，最终让人去回望自己身边或者亲身经历的感情。
Here's Why This One is Hard, by Liz
I hate talking about my feelings. I hate talking about my "relationship."
I know I'm a chick and chicks are supposed to be all emotional, but I'm not. I don't like it one bit.
I particularly don't like asking a guy where the relationship is going or how he feels about me. Ew.
It should be natural and easy and obvious.
So I guess if I have to start thinking and planning and devising all sorts of ways to find out what kind of situation I'm in, I'm probably not in that good a situation. Shit.
But wait. Starting a new relationship is terrifying.
We are all old enough to have experienced or witnessed the triage of broken romance.
We know that if there has been a beginning to a relationship, there has been, if we are still out there dating, always an end to the relationship.
And the endings always suck.
So of course people, women included, will create all sorts of tricks and diversions and distractions to try to not notice that we might in fact be getting into a relationship.
That just seems like a very crafty and understandable aspect to human nature.
So what if in the beginning or awhile into it, it's a little vague?
Who wants to be that crazy girl who needs to know exactly what is going on the minute she meets a guy?
You want to be the cool girl—the girl who knows how to hang out and not be all demanding.
That's who I always wanted to be. That's who I always was.
The thing about that cool girl is that she still gets her feelings hurt.
She still has reactions to how she's being treated.
She still hopes he'll call, wonders when she'll get to see him again, and if he's excited about being with her.
I hate that.
Maybe this is just me, because my priorities have changed as I've gotten older.
But now I don't want to be “sort of dating” someone.
I don't want to be "kinda hanging out" with someone.
I don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved.
I want to be involved. I want to be sleeping with someone I know I'll see again because they've already demonstrated to me that they're trustworthy and honorable—and into me.
Sure, in the beginning you have to be somewhat cautious about how much you give away.
But that caution shouldn't be to make them feel more comfortable; it should be because you know that you are ultimately a delicate, valuable creature who should be careful and discerning about who gets your affection.
That's what I'm doing now. And it's not going so badly.