他其实没那么喜欢你 Part 36
He’s Just Not That Into You
英语原版小说《他其实没那么喜欢你》（原名:He’s Just Not That Into You),主要讲述几对友人看似错综复杂其实很普遍的爱情故事，故事摒弃了以往美剧排列组合的方式，而是分成不同角度，去看每一段独立的爱情，最终让人去回望自己身边或者亲身经历的感情。
The "Multiple Excuses" Excuse
My boyfriend of a year and a half doesn't seem attracted to me.
He doesn't want to have sex that often, maybe once every other week.
Often I have to initiate it. When I ask him about it, he tells me that he's really stressed about work, but that he really is attracted to me.
Before that he told me it was because his mother had recently died and he was too depressed.
But when I really think about it, it's been pretty much like this ever since we met.
Maybe for the first couple of weeks I felt like he thought I was hot, but since then he has never really seemed that into me physically.
I love him, and it's the most loving and healthy relationship in every other way, but now I spend a lot of time feeling frustrated and unattractive.
My friends say I should believe what he's saying.
But I'm starting to feel like he's just not that into me, physically.
Dear Let's Get Physical,
If I'm really into somebody, I want to put it in them. And then take it out. And then put it back in them later on.
So when we're picking someone who we want to spend a lot of time with, even perhaps the rest of our lives, we generally try to pick someone who likes to do the things we like to do.
Including, if not especially, sex.
You can accept his excuses all you want, but you have to ask yourself, is this the relationship you want to be in?
Is this how you want to live the rest of your sex life?
He may be into you, he may not, but the only thing you have to answer is, is this how you want to feel, perhaps forever?
Most regretably, Greg
The Egyptians painted pots about it, the yogis write books about it, the Jews have made religious laws about it.
They all believe that one of the strongest ingredients to a healthy union is sex.
One of the great joys in life is that you get to have sex.
The last person who should be stopping you from enjoying that is the person you're dating.
It's So Simple
Learn it, live it, like it, love it: If a man likes you, he's going to want to have sex with you.
Sure, things may slow down in a long-term relationship, but even then, it's a joy, a gift, and your right to have a fantastic sex life.