If there is one thing I know from experience, for most people, their "roaring twenties" are a time of exploration, confusion, and utter bafflement. I was recently asked what I would go back and tell my younger self. Here are a few things that came to mind.
1. "Bad Boys" are best saved for movies.
Bad boys are not exciting, they are chaotic, unreliable, unfocused and 99% of the time, they will cheat on you and don’t have a proper job. Just because they wear a cute outfit, flip off the establishment does not mean you should trust your heart or body with them.
2. You'll figure this out.
Life is a series of steps and lessons. You only learn by doing, and sometimes, that means doing things you don't want to do, don't know how to do, shouldn't do and don't do well. Instead of worrying about what is not happening, pay attention to your growth and take it one step at a time.
3. No one will ever live up to a fantasy.
We, as humans, are flawed creatures. The point is not to find someone who is your "perfect match" but instead someone who shares your values, loves you, respects you, makes you smile, can live with your annoying habits, challenges you to be your best self and appreciates that you do the same for them.
4. Never chase anyone. Ever.
People who want to be in your life will show up. Those who deserve to be in it will act right while there. Pretty simple.
5. Save a little money every week.
There will come a time in your life when you have an unexpected situation and need a little extra cash. Open a savings account and add to it every week. $100.00 when you can, $10.00 when you are really strapped.
6. Rude first dates do not get second chances.
There was a study performed that said that a first date is a good indication of what the relationship will be like. Pay attention to how your date speaks about and to others, his or her facial expressions, and if they cross the line with you, leave.
7. Toxic friendships are a waste of time.
Define what friendship really means to you and be that kind of friend to others. If you're not getting the support, love, loyalty and respect back-in any relationship-you need to move on. No matter how sticky or painful it might be initially.
8. Unless you really know someone well, do not travel with them.
9. Wit is sexier than a push-up bra.
I am not going to sit here and pretend that a man doesn't have to find you attractive in order to date you. What I am saying is that focusing only on taking hot selfies and looking "sexy" is going to backfire. Yes, you get the initial spark of attention, but if you want to keep it, you'd better have something else to ignite a flame.
10. Remember, this is your journey.
You are in this life and it is yours. You are the one who has to live with the decisions you make and the ones you don't. Loss is a very real thing in this life. You will lose people. You will lose opportunities. When this happens, will you regret not saying "I love you" or booking that trip or will you know you said everything you needed to say and took every chance you wanted to?