蒋劲夫承认“家暴”?爱情里的我们怎么做最好?

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2018-11-21 16:16

大家曾经可能都有过类似的经历,相爱的时候就要形影不离,手牵手,同时想象着两个人未来的美好生活。可一旦出现什么致命的问题,两个人便没有什么情分可言。近日,蒋劲夫事件愈演愈烈,本来两个相爱的人,为何会走到如此地步呢?

蒋劲夫后来发微博承认家暴,但其好友也为此辩解,或许爱情里本来就没有什么对错,没有一方是完全对的,也没有一方是完全错的。在爱情的旅途中每个人都在犯着不同的错误,而这恰巧也是你了解和认识自己的一部分,所以如何经营一段真正的感情,很重要!

那种认为有爱就可以的想法是完全错误的,我们需要的是两个人的默契:

Trust 信任

Trust provides the solid base upon which relationships are built. Both partners must be committed to creating trust in order for it to work. It takes time and effort to create a trusting relationship. A relationship has trust when partners: listen to each other, show mutual respect, avoid controlling each other’s actions, and resolve problems in a healthy way.

信任是一段感情最坚固的基础。感情双方都必须致力于共同创造这种信任,当然这也需要伴侣共同付出努力和时间。只有做到了彼此倾听、互相尊重、给对方空间、能够以健康的方式解决问题,才称得上是一段充满信任的感情关系。

Understanding 理解

Along with trust, having understanding in your relationship is more important than having love. The longer you’re in a relationship, the more your partner (and you!) will develop and change as a person. This means that even your personal needs will change and having understanding for your partner helps you accept those changing needs.

在爱情里面除了信任,相互理解也是非常重要的一个方面。在一起的时间越久,你们的变化就会越大。这意味着你对感情的个人需求也会发生改变,因此应该给另一半足够的理解去接受双方的变化。

Respect 尊重

Part of avoiding the biggest relationship mistake is making sure you have constant respect for your partner. Remembering that both you and your partner’s feelings and values are important is crucial for maintaining respect and a healthy relationship. Showing this respect during inevitable arguments is just as important.

在爱情里面永远需要避免的一个错误就是,无论何时都不要忘记给予另一半足够的尊重。你和伴侣之间的感情以及对于彼此的价值和意义永远是最重要的,同时也是保持尊重和维系感情的关键之处。在无法避免的争吵当中,如果你还能够保持对另一半的这种爱和尊重,相信情况一定会得到缓和。

Communication 交流

You’ve heard it before, but I’ll say it again: communication is key. Communication is more than just talking, it involves listening, too. It involves knowing that you can express your feelings without criticism, feeling that you are being listened to, and trusting that your needs will be met in the relationship.

交流的重要性可能很多人都知道,但是还要提醒流沟通是爱情的关键因素。伴侣之间的交流沟通不仅仅只是谈话聊天,也包括了对于彼此的倾听。感情中正确的交流应该是你可以无所顾忌的表达自己的真实感受,也可以安静的倾听对方的感受,相信彼此的情感诉求能够得到对方的回应。

Be Able to Spend Time Apart

给对方独处的自由和空间

Wanting to spend all your time with the person you love is perfectly natural. Unfortunately, it’s not exactly the healthiest thing you can do in a relationship. It’s important to remember to be yourself and enjoy spending time with yourself as well. This helps you retain your self-identity. You are not his/her boyfriend/girlfriend – you are you. If you or your partner need to spend time alone or with other friends, it’s important to be supportive of this decision. Being able to spend time apart helps counteract the biggest relationship mistake.

想时时刻刻都跟心爱的人在一起是很正常的事情。不幸的是,这却是大多数人在感情中最容易犯的错误。要记住做自己才是最重要的,所以不要放弃花时间和自己相处。这样也有助于你保持自我认同和独立性。因为你的确是别人的另一半,但你不是他们的附属品。所以当另一半想要独处或者去见朋友,我们都应该给予支持。适当给予对方独处的自由和空间,有助于感情的长期稳定发展。

Support 支持

What if you decide to give up your office job and pursue painting? Would you want a partner who supports you in that decision? Probably so. Unconditional support lets your partner know they can always rely on you. You can always feel confident that the other person is interested in your hopes and dreams. Support makes you feel safe on an emotional and physical level.

当你决定辞职去追求自己的画画梦想,你的另一半会全心全意支持你的决定吗?当然,每个人都想要得到身边最亲密的人的支持。另一半无条件的支持会让你感觉自己有所依靠,也会对自己的梦想和希望感到非常自信。伴侣之间的互相支持无论是在情感还是在物质层面都会给对方带来足够的安全感。

爱情里的我们,一定不要轻易迷失,该有的信任和支持不要少,该有的尊重更不要少。你怎么看呢?欢迎留言分享!