It's hard. We're taught that in life, we should try to look on the bright side, to be optimistic.
Not in this case. In this case, look on the dark side. Assume rejection first.
Assume you're the rule, not the exception. It's intoxicatingly liberating.
But we also know it's not an easy concept. Because this is what we do: We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us.
Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us.
Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks or possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep.
We try to come up with some explanation for why they're behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, than the one explanation that's the truth: He's just not that into me.
That's why we've included questions from women taken from real situations.
They represent the basic excuses we all use that keep us in situations far longer than we should be.
So listen, enjoy, and hopefully learn from other women's confusion.
And above all, if the guy you're dating doesn't seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start “figuring him out,“ please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be that into you.
And then free yourself to go find the one that is.