英语原版小说《他其实没那么喜欢你》（原名:He’s Just Not That Into You),主要讲述几对友人看似错综复杂其实很普遍的爱情故事，故事摒弃了以往美剧排列组合的方式，而是分成不同角度，去看每一段独立的爱情，最终让人去回望自己身边或者亲身经历的感情。
I'm a dude. If I like you, I kiss you.
And then I think about what you look like in and out of your underwear.
I'm a guy. That's how it works. No ifs, no ands, and clearly no buts.
Is he scared? Yes, he's scared of hurting your feelings.
That's why he hasn't clarified the relationship.
He may even be biding his time hoping he will develop deeper feelings for you.
When this dude tells you he loves you and that he hopes you never lose touch again, he may as well be signing your yearbook.
He loves you as a friend. If he were in love with you, he wouldn't be able to help himself from getting involved in a romantic relationship regardless of his fear or past experiences.
I say, move on! Go meet someone more worthy of your affections and hot salsa moves.
There are lots of reasons a man might not want to take a friendship to the “next level.“
It really doesn't matter what they are or if they make any sense to you.
The bottom line is that when he imagines being with you more intimately (and trust me, we do think about these things) , he pauses and then says to himself, "Nah."
Don't spend any more time thinking about it, other than saying to yourself, clearly, "His loss."
The "He's So Into Me That Now He's Not" Excuse
I've been dating a guy for a month. We've had sex and it's been nice.
Just when it seemed like things were really "taking off," we stopped having sex.
I've stayed over at his house four times now and we end up just...sleeping.
Some cuddling, but that's about it. It's weird, but sex just doesn't happen anymore.
It's humiliating to have to ask him what's going on, so I'm just going to assume that it's actually because he's really, really into me, and he's just scared.